The need for boundaries

When we talk about stress and mental health, the need for boundaries comes to mind. Here we’re thinking about people asking us to do something for them when we can’t (if you’re already doing other tasks for other people)

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I got inspired by the Growing butterfly’s post on this as office workers struggle to meet deadlines and expectations sometimes. At times I have been overburdened with too many tasks particularly at RMIT when there were a lot of casuals working and when everything is due in the one day.

But now I have a job that I love and can spread the tasks out more evenly. But still, at times I get stressed like we all do. I learned it was OK to say no to some things, but eventually, I’ll get round to doing them.

Personal boundaries are the physical, emotional and mental limits we can reach each day and every person is different. We all have different thoughts, processes, and feelings.

Creating boundaries may seem selfish but it’s necessary for us to maintain our sanity in the workplace. Some of us are people pleasers and we try to please our boss all the time in order to get that raise.

But is that raise really necessary?

The answer’s no. It’s all about your happiness and if you are working for a demanding boss then you should probably leave like Andy did in the Devil Wears Prada.

How to create boundaries in the workplace

  • Understand what you can and can’t do- if you can’t do something just say so.
  • Learn to say no to something within good reason. Be clear and communicate that to your fellow workers who may not see the same way as you do. Express your values and your coworkers may be a bit more understanding. If you have a disability say so.
  • Listen to your gut feelings- if something you think is not right then it probably isn’t.
  • Prioritize tasks- like is Instagram really important during work hours. It probably isn’t unless you are a social media manager who has to promote the brand on Instagram.
  • Do what makes you happy- your happiness counts. You should know your values as they make up your personality. Know what you like and dislike.
  • Compromise- by that, I mean finding a solution that works well with everyone whether it would be requesting more time. In the offices, you would work as a team so you can delegate tasks.

The message is to look after yourself and then the rest will follow suit.

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